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This is my drinking story (part 2 of 2)

Hi . Thanks for sticking with me. I'm back to tell you the last half of my drinking story that I started a couple of days ago - but we know, the story’s really never over, is it? I’m currently in the chapter where I help other women… and who knows what will come next! On with the story… Two days ago, I left off with resistance. You know, that thing where you make a decision that’s good for you but your habits tell you to keep on doing things the same old way you’ve been doing them? That thing. I finally [...]

By |September 22nd, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|0 Comments

This is my drinking story (part 1 of 2)

Last week, a friend of mine who owns a popular business reached out to me because she wanted to pick my brain about creating a Sober October opportunity for her community. I shared with her that the first time I did Sober October for my yoga studio and sent an email about it, it was the most opened email I’d ever sent. By more than double. Twice as many people opened that email than any other email I’d ever written. That’s hundreds of more people! When I went into my studio to teach later that day, it was all anyone was [...]

By |September 20th, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|0 Comments

Partly sunny, with a chance of Groundhog Day

Last night, I was tired and glanced at my watch thinking, can I go to bed yet? The watch face said 8:45 so, yes! Then another thought creeped into my mind and trickled down my back like ice water. Damn, I forgot to get my strength training in… again. I’d put “strength” on my calendar but when that time arrived I wasn’t done with a project I wanted to finish so I mentally pushed going to the gym to something I’d squeeze in before cooking dinner. And forgot. I’ve been trying to start a consistent strength training program for years. [...]

By |September 15th, 2022|Categories: Energy, Wisdom from Blaine|0 Comments

Do you courageously let the part of you that is uncool shine?

Sunday night, I flew home from Cleveland where I led morning movement classes and co-presented at Energy Fest. It was an incredible experience, partly because the keynote presentations were mind-blowing and transformative, but also because it was so fun to be in community with others. Especially others who are a little… shall we say willing to be different from what standard American culture expects of us? Or, put more bluntly, Energy Medicine people are wonderfully weird, like me! I love my place on the fringes of society. When I am in groups of women who choose not to eat animals or animal products, [...]

By |September 13th, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|0 Comments

What is Energy Medicine?

Yesterday, I arrived at Energy Fest in Cleveland. There hasn’t been an Energy Fest in 8 years so, as you can imagine, the vibe here is dynamic and lively. In many ways, being here is exactly like what we’ve all experienced when we see people we haven’t seen in years. It’s breathtaking and a little awkward… I need to dust off my social skills. I’ve only been here a few hours and I’ve already “met” so many people who I only know from Zoom. It’s a little trippy to go from seeing someone from 2D to 3D. People often move [...]

By |September 8th, 2022|Categories: Energy|Comments Off on What is Energy Medicine?

A little bit every day over a long period of time

“I don’t understand what people are talking about when they say meditation makes them calmer. I don’t feel like that while I’m meditating. It’s like that runner's high thing… that’s never happened to me either.”A friend of mine recently shared that with me while we were talking on the phone about her frustration with meditation. I tried to explain to her that you don’t necessarily feel the effects of meditation while meditating, you feel them later when your boss gives you 3 new projects and tells you to work all weekend.You also don’t usually feel great during the run, it’s [...]

By |September 7th, 2022|Categories: Energy, Personal Growth|Comments Off on A little bit every day over a long period of time

Do you pass up the temptation today for a bigger reward tomorrow?

Would I like the fries or the side salad? Should I buy the new clothes or put the money in savings?Do I go to the gym or keep sitting here doing what I’m doing?Pleasure now over long term goals… it’s something we wrestle with every day.I’m a member of a few social groups that are focused on helping women stop drinking. I do it for a couple of reasons, one of them being that I am happy to support anyone who needs a boost, but I also learn so much from watching the psychology of what happens there. Yes, if [...]

By |September 6th, 2022|Categories: Energy, Personal Growth|Comments Off on Do you pass up the temptation today for a bigger reward tomorrow?

Tapping on the chest

Last week, I was in Helena, MT at an Energy Medicine Yoga (EMYoga) retreat helping Lauren Walker. Lauren is the founder and creator of EMYoga and I met her through a mutual friend in 2017. At that time, we agreed that she’d travel to my yoga studio and lead an EMYoga teacher training, which I took. You never know who you’re going to meet that will change everything, right? You can’t pre-plan when you’ll be marching along your path and bump into someone who shows you a fork in your road you didn’t see before and you decide “now I’m [...]

By |August 30th, 2022|Categories: Energy|Comments Off on Tapping on the chest

Morning Pages

Earlier this week, I sent you an email about journaling where I wrote about how hard it was for me to start and how profoundly the practice has supported me since I started doing it consistently. One day, while I was running and listening to a podcast, I heard a woman talk about writing and how something called Morning Pages opened a new world to her. She went on to describe how Morning Pages are a daily writing practice and the brainchild of Julia Cameron. What you do is write as soon as you get up when you haven’t dropped into your [...]

By |August 25th, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on Morning Pages

The #1 helpful habit women resist (and why)

I love to watch women work through resistance. This includes my own resistance to new things (you know, change) and other people’s resistance too. If there’s ever a time we can rationalize like champions, it’s when we’re resisting something. Recently, I was with a group of women and we were talking about how much we love our Instant Pots. One woman in the group (who we weren’t trying to convince of anything) kept chiming in announcing to us all how she doesn’t need an Instant Pot and all the reasons that she hasn’t bought one and why she doesn’t want [...]

By |August 23rd, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on The #1 helpful habit women resist (and why)

50th Birthday

Today I am 50 years old. Several people have asked me how I feel about this. I couldn't answer because I honestly didn't feel anything. I took that as a clue that I should probably dig deeper - so I journaled and did some contemplation practices and I still don’t feel much.Why is that…? I think it’s because I believe I’m in halftime.I’ve always loved sports and I’ve been an athlete my whole life. I started playing soccer at 5 years old and I’ve literally never stopped being athletic.Sports metaphors are obvious and I don’t use them often. However, this half-century birthday [...]

By |August 18th, 2022|Categories: Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on 50th Birthday

Lessons from an apple

Have you ever reflected on something that happened in childhood, something so minor it’s miraculous you even remember it? And then you realize that whatever that experience was is actually a little window revealing exactly who you are now? I’ve had that experience from an ordinary day chopping an apple.It was Thanksgiving, I was 10 or 11 years old and I was cutting apples for the apple pie. As I sliced each apple, I really studied it and felt its weight in my hand. I wondered about the tree it came from and where its brother and sister apples went.This [...]

By |August 11th, 2022|Categories: Plants, Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on Lessons from an apple

Why does time go faster as we age?

It’s always been fun to have a birthday in August. When I was a kid, we had a backyard pool. Summers lasted foreverrrrrrrr. Remember that? I went to a private school so there was no school district. My friends and classmates lived all over Oklahoma City (which is a large, spread-out city) and moms carpooled us to school.After school let out in May, we didn’t see each other all summer and my backyard birthday party (which was joyfully timed right before the beginning of the school year) was the annual back-to-school get together for all the kids. My parents would [...]

By |August 9th, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth|Comments Off on Why does time go faster as we age?

Was that a gun? Or a paddleboard?

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about my escapades learning to stand up paddleboard. The day after I wrote that email to you, it got worse. My paddleboard exploded. At this point, my friend and I thought we had this paddleboard thing down. As we drove to a small lake in Montana, we joked about how we were pros now and made our plan to pull up to the lake, easily inflate our paddleboards (a process that had not been easy at the last outing) and enjoy our lunch. It worked for my paddleboard, no problemo. Then, as my friend’s [...]

By |August 4th, 2022|Categories: Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on Was that a gun? Or a paddleboard?

Do you know the difference between a food allergy and poor digestion?

When I was a pre-teen, I’d go to aerobics with my mother. It was the time of adult women wearing leotards and leg warmers and headbands, you know, that whole scene. I’d be the only kid in the room full of ladies. As soon as I arrived, I’d position myself as far away from my mother as possible, somewhere near the back row, do all the moves and I loved it! I adored the teachers and decided I’d become one (which I did when I finally arrived at 18 years old). Every week, I couldn’t wait to get to class. I craved [...]

By |July 21st, 2022|Categories: Plants|Comments Off on Do you know the difference between a food allergy and poor digestion?

Cooking for two: tips to avoid frustrating food waste

Are you tired of recipes that will feed an army when you’re only cooking for one or two? Are you bored with eating the same thing several days in a row, or feeling guilty when throwing away uneaten leftovers? Well, my healthy eating friend, you’re not alone. Earlier this week, I sent an email with these thoughts and the #1 comment I received which was along the lines of “I can’t believe how much my family was on board.” Here’s the #2 most frequent comment I got: “I’m having a hard time with variety because I cook for two and we [...]

By |July 7th, 2022|Categories: Plants|Comments Off on Cooking for two: tips to avoid frustrating food waste

Don’t assume and take experiences away from people

Here’s a teacher moment I’ll never forget. I’d just returned from studying in India and I was excited to teach some new things to my yoga community in Boulder, CO. Among the new techniques was a lesser-known ancient Himalayan practice of meditative movement called Laya. Laya movements are very feminine and designed to balance the more masculine practice that makes up much of how we practice yoga in the West. These movements were completely different from anything I’d ever seen in a yoga class. They’re much like dance; very flowy and internal and intuitive. As a teacher, it’s uncomfortable to [...]

By |July 5th, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on Don’t assume and take experiences away from people

I sold my business for this

Today is a big day for me. It’s the last day I have my brick-and-mortar yoga studio. The place that has consumed my life for the past 5 years.The new owner and I are meeting this afternoon, I’m showing her some things and dropping my key in her hand.When I walk out and close the door behind me, I can’t just walk into that sacred place, my second home, whenever I want anymore.When that door shuts today, a part of my life is closed forever. And a new door is open.I recently taught an in-person yoga class to 40 people. I [...]

By |June 30th, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on I sold my business for this

Likes and dislikes are of the lower mind

Have you ever been totally convinced you didn’t like a certain food and then someone cooks it in a certain way, or you accidentally eat it, and suddenly you love it? I did that with beets. I grew up with canned beets and decided I didn’t like them and stubbornly held onto that for a loooooooooong time. Then one day, back when I was vegetarian, I was hungry and rushing through the San Francisco airport to catch a flight. As I ran, I rapidly scanned both sides of the terminal for the take-out restaurant with the shortest line, picked a [...]

By |June 23rd, 2022|Categories: Plants|Comments Off on Likes and dislikes are of the lower mind

Plant Based Diets are Cheaper

OMG, the grocery bill.I was mostly raised by a single mother who worked in non-profit and courageously and uncomplainingly raised two kids.Honestly, I was pretty sheltered from her money concerns, but I know they were there. I realized early on that I’d never have a lot of the things that my friends at school flaunted and I wanted to have too.Once a week, the three of us would go to the grocery store and buy the food for the week. When it was check out time and the clerk would ring up the items, my brother and I played a [...]

By |June 19th, 2022|Categories: Plants|Comments Off on Plant Based Diets are Cheaper

Here’s the answer to the question I get the most

Do any of you have dry skin? I do. We all have our “things” and dry skin is one of mine. More than that, I have a dry constitution. I’m always thirsty, even though I drink a lot of water and use electrolytes. Staying hydrated with not-itchy skin is daily project for me. And aging hasn’t helped matters. I bring this up today because I recently got a text that said “Morning Blaine. Just following up on your classes where you talk about toxins. I’m wondering would you share what kind of lotion or oil do you use on your [...]

By |June 8th, 2022|Categories: Energy, Plants|Comments Off on Here’s the answer to the question I get the most

Who do you want to be?

Many years ago, I dated this guy... and we were good together in a lot of ways.  We loved triathlon so we were workout buddies and motivation for one another.  We were both vegans, so we had fun cooking and trying new restaurants and seeking vegan recipes.  We had many similar interests, so it was a pleasant relationship. There was one thing that bugged me though.  When we went out to eat, I always picked up the check.  I didn’t mind paying, and I made significantly more money than he did, but it bothered me that he didn’t ever offer [...]

By |May 30th, 2022|Categories: Uncategorized|Comments Off on Who do you want to be?

How to calm down fast

Wednesdays are always busy days for me. I used to call them “my toughest day” but I’ve recently changed my internal language about Wednesdays to “my day with the greatest opportunities.” Wednesdays have a lot of standing meetings and work that needs to be done for Thursday deadlines and there isn't much breathing room. I plan for these days. I make breakfast and lunch on Tuesday so that’s out of the way and get up extra early on Wednesday morning in an effort to “control” the day as much as I can. The control part is funny, right? Because it never works. Almost every [...]

By |May 8th, 2022|Categories: Energy|Comments Off on How to calm down fast

Life Is About Creating Yourself

I have a milestone birthday this year.  A birthday with a zero on the end. The exact day isn’t for a few months but I’m already reflecting a little and it’s unbelievable how much I’ve evolved, especially over the last 10 years. It makes me appreciate our capacity and ability to change and, at the same time, reminds me of how many years I spent convincing myself that I couldn’t change.  Other people could change, but not me.  My life circumstances were so “special” that I was just locked into the corporate job life and that’s how it was. That [...]

By |February 25th, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on Life Is About Creating Yourself

My Two-Year War With Myself

I’ve told some of you about how things were for me when I first started meditating.  I often describe my experience as a two-year war with meditation (and I also say that just because it took me two years to achieve consistency doesn’t mean it will take others that long). When I think back on that time – the starting and stopping and committing to start over again and failing and being mad at myself and thinking I suck and my brain just won’t do it and I’m so disappointed in my sucky-ness…  When I reflect on all that resistance, I have [...]

By |February 14th, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on My Two-Year War With Myself

The role of ego

Social media… I can’t even describe my relationship with it.  However, as I sit to write about ego, it’s the first thing that arrives in my mind. As an athlete and yoga teacher, ego and I are very good friends.  I’ve spent years working on how fast I can run, obsessing over my place on a race podium (read: how can I defeat others in my quest for the finish line), and examining my body in the mirror to see what I need to change to increase my likelihood of making the podium more of a sure thing. I’ve also [...]

By |February 10th, 2022|Categories: Personal Growth, Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on The role of ego

The Power of What-If

Today is the first day of February.  Can you believe that 2022 is already 15% done?  If you haven’t already, have a seat with some tea or a favorite warm drink, maybe light a candle, grab your journal, and reflect on January 2022.  Journaling is a wonderful practice to help with clarity, progress towards goals, positive thinking, and overall mental health. This is an especially nice time to be reflective because we’re starting a new month in a time of the new moon. Yesterday, I taught a free 30-minute class to help us align with the energy of the new [...]

By |February 1st, 2022|Categories: Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on The Power of What-If

The Truth About Overwhelm

Overwhelm is a word that pops into my mind a lot lately.  It’s even become something I measure within myself on a day to day, and even minute to minute basis.  Do you know what feeling I’m talking about?  It’s not the same as stress.  Stress has a low-lying hum.  Overwhelm comes on fast.  In a moment, I can go from just fine to total overwhelm.  It’s a slippery trigger that for me, once it’s on, is a snowball rolling downhill of things I need to do. When I’m in overwhelm, I somehow lose sight of the fact that not [...]

By |January 6th, 2022|Categories: Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on The Truth About Overwhelm

This is my prayer.

May we all get through this pandemic. May we not return to the normal that got us here. May I be awake and ready for what happens next. As you can probably imagine, this was not my prayer two years ago. Honestly, I can’t even remember what it was. Two years ago, I was in Florida for the holidays and putting the final touches on Yoga Hive’s 2020 plans and I was super excited about the year ahead. And then new learning began… Oh, this time of lessons. My new daily prayer serves me now, today, in this moment, and [...]

By |December 22nd, 2021|Categories: Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on This is my prayer.

I know what to do but I just don’t do it.

I hear this often, especially now, in this era of pandemic. The level of struggle is palpable in both mental health and personal choices as we move forward in the new world. And when I say personal choices, I mean things as basic as “do I open another bottle of wine or go to yoga?” We all know that we need to move every day, drink plenty of water, avoid sugar and processed food, and meditate for clarity, but we don’t all do it. We invent justifications and delay another day. It seems like we may be “getting away” with [...]

By |December 15th, 2021|Categories: Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on I know what to do but I just don’t do it.

Chinese Medicine Five Elements

When I was in my early twenties, I worked in administration in a large healthcare facility. One day, Sonya from Marketing cruised by my office for a chat and casually dropped this at the end of our conversation, “Gwen in Accounting thinks you don’t like her.” What??? I thought to myself (without any real emotion or drama), well…. I guess I need to spend some time being nice to Gwen. And I did. Gwen and I ended up being great friends, having many adventures together and even orchestrating life so we worked together again, years later, at a different healthcare [...]

By |December 8th, 2021|Categories: Energy|Comments Off on Chinese Medicine Five Elements

Shake it off.

I was 23 years old working in a local clinic in downtown Oklahoma City. It was 9:00 am and I heard an earth shaking blast and the building started trembling, windows bowing out and in. There was construction across the street and, at first, I thought the giant crane that had been towering above us for weeks finally fell on our building. Then I saw the smoke. The Federal Building just blocks away had been bombed. We all jumped into action as it was only minutes before parents ran into our facility, holding children with shards of glass sticking out [...]

By |December 1st, 2021|Categories: Energy|Comments Off on Shake it off.

My whole yoga journey started with………… gratitude.

Seriously, this isn't a Thanksgiving gratitude thing. This is how my whole life changed. Back when I was traveling fulltime and living the hotel and business dinner 5- days-a-week life, I was… I don’t even know how to describe it... not as stable as I am now. Yes, I was financially stable, and I had all the stuff that goes with that, but internally - I was a mess. My mind was constantly telling me I wasn’t good enough and I needed to do and be more, more, more! The mean voice in my head was absolutely punishing. I can’t [...]

By |November 24th, 2021|Categories: Personal Growth|Comments Off on My whole yoga journey started with………… gratitude.

What am I doing?

You sit in front of your computer and are barely able to lift your fingers. You feel tired and don’t know why you are here. You’ve lost your motivation. Do you know this feeling? What am I doing? Not what am I doing right now…. what am I doing?!? In those moments, the inner fire may be burning low, or maybe not at all. Have you ever been camping and tried to start a fire? You’re walking around looking for wood – not just any wood but dry wood that is suitable to create a spark. Then the effort begins [...]

By |November 17th, 2021|Categories: Personal Growth|Comments Off on What am I doing?

This was a big ego check for me.

Late last year, a friend asked me if I’d like to visit her in Alaska. I used to live in Alaska so it’s not foreign to me, but she was talking north of the Arctic Circle in Alaska. I, somewhat hesitantly, said OK. She lives in Wiseman, AK. Wiseman is remote and small. Incredibly small. In winter, 11 people live there, in summer, 22. I knew 5 things about the Alaskan Arctic: cold, northern lights, the pipeline, hunting and bugs. There are two kinds of bugs in Alaska, annoying and very annoying. The Arctic has a third kind, bird-sized! The [...]

By |November 10th, 2021|Categories: Wisdom from Blaine|Comments Off on This was a big ego check for me.

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